Every breastfeeding group I attend will bring up an aspect I haven't written about before (at least I don't think I have!) and today it was all about asking for help even though someone else may be worse off.
At the group we had women who had pretty much got breastfeeding sorted. Some niggles, small adjustments, nothing major. Once we get to that stage, we tend to just put up with those minor problems because after all, they're so minor in comparison to what they were to begin with.
We tend to compare things to the absolute worst and think that things aren't so bad after all. And in a way that is of course right. Things aren't as bad as they once were, but why should they be bad at all?
As we were chatting today one mum who's baby had been feeding happily (without any help from me) started to mention that her baby was getting long and heavy. She is a petite woman herself and holding her baby comfortable was beginning to get more difficult. But she didn't want to make a big deal about it.
But that's the thing about babies; they grow! And we may need help again to deal with the changes and that's NORMAL and it's OK to ask for help again. In this woman's case today, I suggested a new position. That was all. She did it herself and they were both happier.
I'm going to say it again: It's ok to ask for help even if your problem seems insignificant in comparison to the problems other women face. To me, YOUR happiness, comfort and well-being is as important as that of your baby.